Health Benefits of Argula and a great fertility herb food

    I've always heard about argula and how it is so good for you. I really have no excuse why I disliked it in the past so I guess this is argula season. I picked up some from Trader Joe's and I have been addicted to it ever since. Arugula is rich in vitamins A, C, E and K, and various B vitamins such as thiamin, riboflavin, niacin, vitamin B-6, and pantothenic acid. The leaves contain plenty of minerals, especially copper and iron. It also has trace amounts of some other essential minerals and electrolytes such as calcium, iron, manganese, magnesium, phosphorus, potassium, selenium, and zinc.

    Arugula is  known by other names such as salad rocket, garden rocket, roquette, rucola, rugula or colewort.  The scientific name of arugula is Eruca sativa.
   Argula is said to have cancer power properties like broccoli and cauliflower. It is high in fibre and antioxidants studies show may reduce the risk of developing lung, prostate, breast, and pancreatic cancer.
   Argula is rich in chlorophyll, so to get the most chlorophyll in arugula, it is best to eat it raw. The large amounts of chlorophyll, also known as “liquid sunshine” helps cleanses the blood, detoxifies cells, heals disease in the body and boosts oxygen. It contains indole-3-carbinol and isothiocyanates which have been shown to suppress the production inflammation in the body.
    Arugula is high in most B vitamins but contains especially high amounts of folate. Awesome for those early pregnancy months and good for those trying to conceive. Fresh arugula is an excellent source of folate and when consumed by a woman during the time of conception and throughout pregnancy, may help prevent neural tube defects in the newborn child. Please Note:
Arugula is relatively lower in oxalate content than that in spinach, purslane, mustard greens, celery, etc. The greens can be safely used during pregnancy and lactation. As always consult your physician*

   Studies show those who eat arugula on a regular basis are found to have more sexual drive and energy. Arugula also contains high levels of iron and copper, making it a strong substitute or addition to spinach in your diet.

Endometriosis And Natural Ways to Assist

Endometriosis is a painful, chronic disease that affects at least 6.3 million women and girls in the U.S., 1 million in Canada, and millions more worldwide. It occurs when tissue like that which lines the uterus (tissue called the endometrium) is found outside the uterus -- usually in the abdomen on the ovaries, fallopian tubes, and ligaments that support the uterus; the area between the vagina and rectum; the outer surface of the uterus; and the lining of the pelvic cavity. Other sites for these endometrial growths may include the bladder, bowel, vagina, cervix, vulva, and in abdominal surgical scars. Less commonly they are found in the lung, arm, thigh, and other locations.

This misplaced tissue develops into growths or lesions which respond to the menstrual cycle in the same way that the tissue of the uterine lining does: each month the tissue builds up, breaks down, and sheds. Menstrual blood flows from the uterus and out of the body through the vagina, but the blood and tissue shed from endometrial growths has no way of leaving the body. This results in internal bleeding, breakdown of the blood and tissue from the lesions, and inflammation -- and can cause pain, infertility, scar tissue formation, adhesions, and bowel problems.

What are the Symptoms of Endometriosis?

• Pain before and during periods
• Pain with sex
• Infertility
• Fatigue
• Painful urination during periods
• Painful bowel movements during periods
• Other Gastrointestinal upsets such as diarrhea, constipation, nausea.

In addition, many women with endometriosis suffer from:

• Allergies
• Chemical sensitivities
• Frequent yeast infections

Diagnosis is considered uncertain until proven by laparoscopy, a minor surgical procedure done under anesthesia. A laparoscopy usually shows the location, size, and extent of the growths. This helps the doctor and patient make better treatment choices.

What Causes Endometriosis?

The cause of endometriosis is unknown. The retrograde menstruation theory (transtubal migration theory) suggests that during menstruation some of the menstrual tissue backs up through the fallopian tubes, implants in the abdomen, and grows.  Some experts believe that all women experience some menstrual tissue backup and that an immune system problem or a hormonal problem allows this tissue to grow in the women who develop endometriosis.

Another theory suggests that endometrial tissue is distributed from the uterus to other parts of the body through the lymph system or through the blood system. A genetic theory suggests that it may be carried in the genes in certain families or that some families may have predisposing factors to endometriosis.

Surgical transplantation has also been cited in many cases where endometriosis is found in abdominal scars, although it has also been found in such scars when accidental implantation seems unlikely.

Another theory suggests that remnants of tissue from when the woman was an embryo may later develop into endometriosis, or that some adult tissues retain the ability they had in the embryo stage to transform reproductive tissue in certain circumstances.

My personal experience, my constant pelvic pain which I believe was endometriosis was contributed by my surgery scar. The adhesion from my abdominal scar was creating little growth and pain. I also had ovarian cyst and not until I couldn't walk, rushed to the emergency room. Only to find out what the real reason was and being told it would be difficult to get pregnant according to the doctors. If my mother was able to have kids, I definitely would and YOU WILL TOO!

My Regimen:

1. Being positive and trusting in God to fulfill his promise. Genesis 17:6 "I will make you exceedingly fruitful, and I will make nations of you, and kings will come forth from you."  You were created to be fruitful and bear kids! Regardless of your condition or situation. I know its not easy believing when your symptoms show otherwise. Your mind and body are connected, the pituary gland in our brains actually regulate the ovaries. So there is power in positive thinking.

     Everyday when I got up, I would take that scripture and read out loud "He has made me fruitful and children will come forth from me". I would walk around my home declaring my kids will be in my home, I walked to their room and declared they would sleep in that room. It took 4 years but eventually it occurred.

2. Reduce Stress. Find ways to reduce stress, do some exercise  to get that blood flowing, get a massage. In the Infertility Cure by Radine Lewis, she suggested in doing light massage below the navel before ovulation not after. Apply a warm cloth over there daily, use light pressure and massage anti clockwise. This is great for cysts, fibroids and endometrial tissue.  Exercise stimulates blood circulation and reduces estrogen production.

3.  Avoid Cold foods, I know it sounds bizzare and even my mom tells me to avoid too cold foods. It does work, why? warming foods actually stimulates intestinal movement  and activates the kidneys. So for those having bowel issues cut back on cold or too cold foods/ice. It's okay every now and then but don't make cold foods a habit. Drink warm water the first thing in the morning.

    According to Chinese medicine, cold and raw vegetables such as salads tend to weaken the spleen unless the individuals who consume them are robust and strong (“Yang” type person).  This could be the reason why many vegetarians look pale because of their weak spleen although Vitamin B12 deficiency may also be responsible. Also, most vegetarians eat a lot of salad, even though cooked vegetables are better to eat.  One of the common signs of weak spleen is dry lips or frequent thirst.  Chronic diarrhea or loose bowel may be another sign of weak spleen.  Since the spleen is an important organ for red cell production, weak spleen is a common cause of anemia, especially in cases that do not respond to iron supplements.

4. Avoid food or herbs with estrogenic properties and liver/kidney weakening foods example - white flour, white sugar, fried foods, too much citrus fruits(I cut back on my orange juice & tomato/tomato sauce), chocolate, cow's milk (Once I eliminated this my cysts decreased tremendously), Soy, flaxseeds(Apparently I was eating so much, taking the oil and the seeds, once I stopped I saw a difference), Don Quai, Licorice, Ginseng, Royal Jelly, fennel, anise, flaxseed oil, clover, red clover, evening primrose oil and edamame.

5. Avoid Xenoestrogen: In fact, some of the 70,000 registered chemicals for use in the United States have hormonal effects in addition to toxic effects. The effects of xenoestrogens are beginning to be researched and understood as contributing factors to a variety of health challenges, including estrogen dominance and obesity.

Sources include - commercially raised meat, canned foods, plastics, Styrofoam, some personal care products, pesticides, paints, some cosmetics, birth control pills & spermicide, some detergents, scents that contain phthalates and air fresheners ( get a small empty container fill with distilled water, purchase your favorite essential oil, add 10-20 drops cover, shake and spray in the air).

6.  Cleanse your body: The liver is the most important organ for hormone regulation. Both estrogen and androgen stimulate cell division.  Elevated levels of these hormones may lead to abnormal cell growth such as womens' uterine fibroids, ovarian cysts, endometriosis, breast cysts, and breast cancer or mens' prostate enlargement and prostate cancer.  Since the liver is the principal organ which removes these hormones, its failure to remove them efficiently often leads to their accumulation in the body and is a major cause of the above diseases.

  The liver is amazingly regenerative!!! Cellular turnover is quite fast. Every cell in a healthy liver is replaced every forty days.

     These include burdock root, dandelion greens, artichokes, parsley, turmeric milk thistle, mustard greens(I found out my body  absolutely loves this, every time I steam them & eat I feel so much better), apples, brussel sprouts, broccoli, carrots(I juice this every other day it works great in cleansing avoid adding citrus fruits to it when juicing. Best combination is carrots, apples, a little ginger, a little parsley and once juiced add a touch of turmeric). Chinese herbs that could work - Chinese Gentian & Coptis*. Stop use once pregnancy is confirmed.
     Take Chinese Bitters and Coptis *(I just used my carrot juice blend, steamed mustard greens & artichokes along with green tea) for at least one whole cycle, then followed by liver and gallbladder flush (apple juice or olive oil with lemon juice. google liver flush for recipe) just before the next period or on the first day of the period.  After the period, follow take the bitters and coptis. Estrogens are in their highest levels shortly before menstrual bleeding.  Liver and gallbladder flush during this time can bring down estrogens significantly.

  7.  Avoid herbs that are rich in alkaloids and other natural chemicals that stress the liver: including golden seal, senna, celandine, chaparral, lobelia, licorice, valerian, rhubarb root, cayenne, and poke root. Some sensitive people may find aromatic herbs such as peppermint, lemon balm, rosemary, thyme, and lavender upsetting to their livers.  Some may find that their bodies don't mix well with essential oils - I absolutely recommend 5 drops maximum in a 4 ounce bottle if you must use one.

     Endometrial cells do not necessarily cause pain unless the estrogen level reaches a certain threshold that make the endometrial cells swell or congest thereby causing pain. Substantial evidence exists that endometriosis is dependent on estrogen for continued growth and proliferation .  Estrogen therapy has been shown to worsen gynecological conditions such as fibroids and endometriosis . Many endometriosis sufferers take painkillers regularly to control their pain.  Since painkillers are damaging to the liver and kidneys, they actually make their problems worse in the long run.

8. Deal with your emotions. Do you have emotional stress that might be hidden? Do you have unresolved anger, bitterness or sadness from the past? Have you forgiven those who caused such?

9. Find ways to give especially to those with kids that have a need. I found ways to be a blessing to those with kids and being a blessing in general. Give as God leads.

*Note consult a physician before embarking on any herbs suggested. I'm not a doctor. If using any herbs it is suggested to start with one slowly to see how your body reacts.  It took me months to find out what my body was allergic to and what it needed. I found out flaxseeds, soy, edamame, cow's milk, raw foods(raw carrots and raw veggies. Apparently my body loves steamed veggies. Radine also talked about it in the book), too much citrus foods was a no go for me. Knowing your body will take time but don't give up. God is faithful and you will conceive! 

Healthy Natural Hair Growth

Important factors that contribute to healthy hair : Eating habits, scalp, ends, products and maintenance. And another important note is Ethnicity does not determine growth rate or texture, your genetic background does.  So regardless of what race you might be, hair is hair and hair grows.

HEALTHY FOODS -  Eating healthy foods will nourish your hair from within and contribute to healthy hair growth. Most people find their hair grows when they start taking vitamins or "hair growth vitamin". I'm not a fan of  pills unless its absolutely necessary and if I do take them it has to be natural & with quality ingredients. Avoid junk foods (occasional eating is okay), avoid sugary drinks especially sodas and drink enough water to ensure your hair gets moisturized from the inside.
   The best easy way to get most vitamins or nutrients would be with juicing, get yourself  a good juicer, purchase a variety of vegetables and fruits. Get juicing! My favorite juice - Organic carrots, organic apples, organic lettuce, beets, broccoli and a touch of ginger. Engage your kids in the juicing process and have them choose their fruits & vegetables. If your child is a picky eater like mine, sneak in vegetables in meals by blending them - then freezing in cubes - then add them when you cook meals. There are so many healthy foods now being geared towards kids, I encourage you to go into whole foods, trader joes, fresh market and other healthy food stores. Also do not forget protein and healthy fats like avocados, extra virgin olive oil, nuts(almonds, walnuts, pistachios, cashew e.t.c), omega 3 fatty acids - from fish like wild salmon, trout, mackerel and from plant source such as flax seeds. Choose healthy snacks for you and your family also. 

   SCALP -  Maintaining a healthy scalp is absolutely crucial to having a healthy hair. Your scalp just like your skin needs to absorb water, air and be clean. Most individuals experience dry scalp and sometimes its caused by lack of exfoliation/unclean scalp, high ph, lack of moisture. Using shampoo will get your hair clean but it will not exfoliate your scalp. You use a body scrub or dry brush on your skin to remove dead skin cells right? Then why not do the same with your scalp.  When using a shampoo, ensure your fingers are scrubbing your scalp. Avoid shampoo with chemicals and a good moisturizing one. How often should you shampoo? Every hair is different and there is no rule as to when you should shampoo. Some do not use shampoo and stick with the no poo method. The hair standard is to shampoo every 7 days, does this apply to you? Not necessarily, your hair will definitely let you know when its time to.    
     Rinsing with apple cider vinegar will help balance the pH of your hair and remove the buildup from using products. I love organic raw apple cider vinegar and keep bottles of them. Rinsing with apple cider vinegar will also close the numerous cuticle scales which cover and protect the surface of each hair shaft. This imparts a smoother surface which reflects more light and as a result leaves your hair shinier, smoother and easier to manage. You basically use this after using a shampoo & especially after using a shampoo bar.  The acids and enzymes in ACV kill the "bottle bacillus", a bacteria that is one of the causes for many scalp and hair conditions such as dandruff, itchy scalp, hair loss and often baldness. The bacteria clogs hair follicles allowing dry crusts to form that itch and flake.

ENDS - Hair trim / hair dusting as it is often called is just lightly getting the dead ends off your hair. Can you imagine your hair's condition if you went without a trim for years? Everyone needs a trim including kids. Kids should have their first trim by the age of 3.  It defeats the purpose of growing long hair, right? Wrong. While the initial service can be painful and discouraging, when you trim away old ends which are doing nothing for your style, you make way for healthy, stronger hair.  Fresh ends encourage curl formation and prevent breakage. Dusting / trimming your ends should be done at least every 3 months. Also I would recommend applying a light oil/pomade/serum to your ends at night to protect them.

MOISTURE -  I grew up being told to avoid using water in hair except when using a shampoo / conditioner, due to my kinky hair type and it could cause frizz. No Bueno! Hair needs moisture, it needs water or any type of liquid mist to moisture your hair and support  healthy hair growth. Please note applying oil on your hair/scalp WILL NOT add moisture back into your hair. Hair is porous and some hair types are more porous than others. If you have low porosity, you will notice it takes a while for your hair to absorb water and products just seem to sit on top of your hair.  Avoid using too much oils, products with low ph, use glycerin or glycerin based products, if using the no poo method - use baking soda rather than apple cider vinegar. And get into the habit of steaming your hair regularly. 
     A normal porosity hair type means your hair can hold in moisture easily and shine.  While a high porosity hair type means your hair has been exposed to severe damage most likely from excessive heat or relaxing often or much chemicals. Your hair will probably lose moisture quickly while being absorbed easily. Hair types like these will benefit from aloe vera, apple cider vinegar, oil rinses/prepoo, avoiding excessive heat or relaxing often.
    Do not over saturate your hair with oils or excessive hair creams. Use a good moisturizing shampoo, moisturizing conditioner and then a good leave in/serum/cream. I'm sometimes guilty of being heavy handed :-).  Let your hair guide you as to when it lacks moisture! You should get in the habit of using a deep conditioner every time you shampoo! Apply on to damp hair and then use a good hair steamer/plastic cap. 
   If you have relaxed hair, DO NOT try to do a wash and go. And also DO NOT air dry. Relaxed hair is designed to be heat dried and air drying will encourage dryness/frizz. So you can lightly blow dry but ensure you use a heat serum before using a flat iron. Relaxed hair types do have raised cuticles and heat drying smooths them preventing dryness while increasing shine.

PRODUCTS - Choosing good products will also aid in a heatlhy hair growth. Look for products with essential oils such as peppermint, rosemary, eucalyptus, lemon, cedarwood, clary sage and lavender all which will promote hair growth. Herbs such as neem, burdock root, nettle, horsetail, ginseng. parsley, calendula, marshmallow and green tea. Pro vitamin b5 is also great in strengthening the hair follicles. My favorite Jakeala products are:
Apple Cider Vinegar Shampoo
Hair Rinse - Use after using a shampoo bar / after using a shampoo
Nappy Hair Butter - Use as a conditioner or leave in hair cream
Amla Shea Castor Parfait - Great for pre poo and Kinky hair types especially type 3 or 4.
Coconut Hair Juice - Great leave in hair spray with coconut milk
Silky Castor Hair Oil - I use this with Coconut hair juice especially on my daughters hair, daily and when detangling.

MAINTENANCE - Maintaining your hair is essential to having a healthy hair. So a summary - Using a good moisturizing shampoo, conditioner and leave in/serum.  

HAIR TEA RECIPE - 
Choose a tablespoon of your favorite herbs, After you've decided which herb(s) will get the job done, follow the steps below:
Place the herb(s) in a pitcher (glass is ideal).
Pour boiling water over the herb(s), cover, and steep for 10-20 minutes.
Strain the mixture and allow the liquid to cool.

Pour over your head after your regular shampoo, condition, and detangling session. Do not rinse.  
You can purchase good herbs from Mountainrose.com.

And to purchase any products listed go to www.jakeala.net








 

Dealing with Unforgiveness, Depression and Infertility

I know it's been a while I wrote but I felt the need to address the issue of forgiveness and why not forgiving can create a hindrance within ourselves. Choosing to forgive daily does come with a price tag - of getting over hurt, grief, pain and imbalance.  We as humans tend to over up our emotions and push it to the side, while in reality it breaks out spirit within.

Proverbs 17:22 "A merry heart improves the body and a depressed spirit dries the bones.."

Unforgiveness can cause depression and break your spirit. When emotions are blocked they will vibrate to a corresponding organ system. it is important to remember that it is normal to experience the full range of emotions. It is only when a particular emotion is experienced over a prolonged period or with particular intensity that it becomes a source of imbalance. Depression can stem from anger, rage, bitterness, sadness, not feeling loved/wanted. In a more long-term view, suppressed anger or frustration often causes liver qi to become stagnant; this might result in depression or menstrual disorders. Too much thinking or obsessing about a topic can also deplete the spleen, causing a stagnation of its qi. Sadness or grief affects the lungs, producing fatigue, shortness of breath, crying, or depression. A person with this condition may exhibit such symptoms as poor appetite, forgetting to eat, and bloating after eating. A person who worries too much "carries the weight of the world on his/her shoulders,"

When the Qi/Emotions and blood are blocked and not flowing smoothly symptoms such as endometriosis, blocked tubes, blood clots, premenstrual cramping and pain, and irregular menses can occur. The Liver is important in reproduction largely because of its role in menstruation. During the premenstrual period the Liver shifts the Blood flow from other body parts to the Uterus. Right before menstruation, when the Liver is busy directing the body to menstruate, it has a tendency to neglect its other functions of keeping the Qi and emotions flowing smoothly. As a result, the emotions are no longer able to flow freely, and depression, anger, sadness, weepiness, or any combination is experienced. There may be headaches, breast pain, cramps, and a wide variety of other physical and emotional symptoms. Blockage in the Liver system is a most eloquent description of why pre-menstrual tension and its associated symptoms occur. At this time any Liver obstruction will cause Qi and blood to "back up" or stagnate. If the channels remain blocked, the flow of energy to the Uterus will be impeded, and then the menses are associated with pain and cramping. When diagnosing patterns that are preventing conception, it is absolutely essential to assess where there are blockages in the Liver and Gallbladder.
         When the Liver system is not functioning smoothly, the hormonal system is not either. The Uterus itself can become a toxic environment, hostile to implantation. Excess estrogen is not metabolized effectively and can build up, because it is the liver that metabolizes hormones. (It doesn't help that there is a preponderance of synthetic estrogen in our diet, and even in the products we apply to our skin.) Estrogen dominance is implicated in conditions like endometriosis, fibroids, polycystic ovarian syndrome, and cancer. Most women with these diseases are diagnosed with an element of Liver  stagnation.

      During my 4 year wait  of wanting to get pregnant, God began to bring to the surface about forgiveness and letting go. I was sad depressed and cried out to him, then he began to remind me of my unforgiveness. I had been through so much hurt, sadness and pain from the past that I just covered up those feelings without really letting go. I literally broke down in tears and truly forgave the parties. As I began to forgive, I free and finally got a positive pregnancy test but then miscarried. However, since Ihad spent months on forgiving, I refused to allow the loss make me bitter/stop the flow.  Forgiveness is not an easy task and it will never be. You might say hey how do I forgive,where do I start; I have been through rape, abuse, messy divorce, hurtful things said, humiliation and betrayal. Most times we think it would go away but it never really does, you can pretend all is well but it never really is. In many cases of abuse, we can see that depression is merely a cover-up for suppressed anger and guilt. When we are depressed, we dwell on negative thoughts about ourselves or our perpetrators. In turn, those negative thoughts cause further depression. It becomes a downward spiral which we often feel is uncontrollable.
               People who have been emotionally abused usually suffer from depression and anxiety long after they end unhealthy relationships. Many researchers believe that depression and anxiety surface as a result of suppressed anger toward our abusers. From a clinical perspective, depression often occurs when the brain cannot hold onto serotonin, the feel-good chemical that our bodies naturally produce. Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) are drugs that were designed to block this 'leaking' of serotonin from our brains. From an internal perspective, depression is a turning away from the outside world and closing down to everything other than self. I've suffered from depression, and I know how it feels to be so emotionally isolated that nothing seems worth doing anymore. There have been times when I didn't want to eat, sleep, play, or even breathe anymore. I saw myself as a worthless creature, taking up space on a planet where I had become obsolete.
   First step is to start now - Are they any unresolved emotions that you haven't dealt with and placed on the back burner? Is there something from your past that still fuels that anger or depression? Most times we get thoughts/flashbacks and then a sudden rush of emotions. If you do feel anger, resentment, sadness or depressed then you really haven't gotten over it.

1. Deal with unresolved anger, sadness or whatever issues from the past by writing down what it could be. And then ask yourself why you are still feeling such way.
2. Find someone who you trust to talk about the situation - this is crucial because talking about it actually now opens the door to forgiveness meaning if you can talk about it then you can certainly let go of it.
3. Tell God you forgive, ask him to forgive you of harboring such & help you be whole. If you are a believer ask God to show you any unresolved issues, give you the grace to forgive and heal the hurt/pain/grief.
4. If you can talk with who caused such grief & let them know it did cause you pain but you choose to forgive them and move on. This was a very hard step for me but I chose to do it anyways because this would also cause them to reflect on their action & hopefully choose  to act better.
5. Never allow your mind dwell on the hurt anymore, thoughts or flashbacks will happen but the key is refusing to dwell on that emotion and think positive. Act positive, live positive and force yourself to be positive. "I have forgiven them, God has forgiven me and I have moved on."  Say that to yourself anytime your ind tries to play tricks on you.
6. At least twice a week, find ways to destress -  getting a massage, taking a bath, meditating on positive words & scriptures, praying, listening to worship music, talking walks.
7. Live a healthy life - avoiding sugary foods/drinks, refined carbohydrates, refined or junk foods, practice a habit of juicing  especially carrots, beets and apple(carrots are great for detoxifying the liver), Eating small, easily digestible meals - sitting down, chewing thorough, Avoid too much cold foods, drink water - not with meals, Eat frequent, small meals. This keeps the blood sugar levels more stable and inhibits adrenaline release. Use spices that move the flow , like peppermint, rosemary, spearmint, turmeric, and thyme. Most times avoiding drinking milk also helps not necessarily though. Do not overeat. Try to avoid heavy, hard to digest foods like nuts, peanut butter, butter, animal fats, too much meat, and too much bread. Avoid foods with preservatives or chemicals.
8. Avoid harboring anger and resentment. Feelings of frustration and internal emotional tension need to be resolved as soon as possible, as any stagnated emotion can inhibit the Qi mechanism.
9. Laugh often. Watch comedies or funny movies to release any stuck internal feelings.
10. Avoid food with GMOs especially soy foods, I realized I was had too much estrogen & made sure to avoid estrogen foods. And also avoid chemicals like bleach or cleaning products with fumes. 
11. Do light massages with your fingers below the navel- Only for women* this will help improve blood flow and help with any stagnation/blockage. This is also important for anyone that has had surgery as those adhesion's can cause stagnation. 

    And the truth of  the matter is you will always have someone who will try to hurt you emotionally or do things to make you sad. It's part of life and living above anger/sadness/depression/hurt/grief shows maturity.It's most times those that are close to us that say hurtful things but CHOOSE to FORGIVE.

*Note I'm not a medical expert but this is based on my experience, do consult with a doctor if need be before making any dietary changes.

Being a Woman

I seek to ELEVATE women; to become powerful women, genuine women, refined women and virtuous women. And, I want YOU to learn how to become a woman full of womanly instincts, dignity and power - a true feminine artist!
   Not only that, but you may need to be more careful about WHAT you are putting into your mind. I know it's a fact that that every single thought we have leaves a lasting impression on our mind - good or bad. We basically ARE what we think. Thinking good thoughts, reading God' word, surrounding yourself with positive people, who challenge you to grow and have goals for the future.
  To be a truly cultivated woman, I feel that a woman must start as early as possible and make this vocation a main aim in her life. She must ardently seek the right information, as well as the 'gurus,' guardians and guides! She must also learn to make the most of her opportunities - become shrewd and calculating even.

A woman should never allow herself to waste any of her precious time at all - or be led by any sort of blind impulses. Whether she’s at work or at play, traveling the world, or running a tight ship at home - she should keep this vital information (as well as her goals) at the forefront of her mind and heart.

Sadly, many of my young peers today don’t exhibit HALF of their real potential; to be ALL that belongs to a feminine, striving, free thinking, accountable and intelligent young woman. I'm also talking about the kind of woman who acts like a lady - yet thinks like a man. In addition, I'm talking about a woman who's constantly learning, evolving, as well as consistently honing her skills.
   adly, many of my young peers today don’t exhibit HALF of their real potential; to be ALL that belongs to a feminine, striving, free thinking, accountable and intelligent young woman. I'm also talking about the kind of woman who acts like a lady - yet thinks like a man. In addition, I'm talking about a woman who's constantly learning, evolving, as well as consistently honing her skills.

Sadly, in a world such as this, where we’re all so passé, aimless, needy and dependent (and even seem to be passively 'blown about by the wind,') many of us don’t even know half of our real female potential. We also don't know even utilize half of our strength, extra-ordinariness, individuality, or true womanly beauty.

We're meant to be STANDING OUT, not being invisible! Also, becoming a first-rate version of ourselves, far exceeds becoming a second-rate version of someone else.
  The most masculine men can truly look to such a feminine 'artiste' with a confidence that knows no doubt. She's actually a very STRONG woman - being as firm as a rock, yet sweet as a flower!

Feminine women are really the best managers in the world - so far as they have had experience. Though such ladies may seem gentle as a dove, and appear quite modest or un-assuming in their demeanor, there can be in them the qualities (and knowledge of tactics) that command the utmost respect.
  When a woman NEEDS others (or a man) to be showing her; her own beauty - this will always work against her! To step into the role of a self-realized woman (even an illusion of a ‘goddess-like’ woman) women need to be already aware of their inner beauty and give the absolute impression that they truly believe they are worthy (or a great catch) - with or without the reassurance of others!
 Almost every women needs to work on building (or improving on) her self image. It’s true! Many women could be doing a whole lot better with themselves. And many women also don’t know how to attract the best men or attract men who can recognize their true beauty! Becoming a self-assured woman as well as having a positive self-image is vital in not only attracting a good man, but for allowing him to fall in love!